Autism spectrum disorders are a group of neurological disorders that usually appear in early childhood. These conditions are often characterized by abnormal communication skills and deficits in social interaction. Some parents who were able to detect health disorders early and begin treatment spoke of the benefits of early intervention. One of the parents also shared how three schools rejected their son with ASD out of ignorance. you know greatness Report
When the pediatrician told Mrs Joy Ibemere that her two-year-old son Sinobichukwu had autism, she felt cold and numb. She is difficult to handle. When she finally came home from the hospital that day, she passed out at the thought of the challenges of raising a child.
Her knowledge of autism was vague, and it never occurred to her that it was something she would have to deal with until her son was diagnosed with mild autism. To add to her confusion, her son never showed the typical signs she would read about later.
The mother-of-three described her feelings at the time of the diagnosis, saying: “It hit me hard because I was terrified for him and his future. The stigma, lack of understanding of the condition at home, combined with According to the doctor’s report, he must live with this condition for the rest of his life.
“But the doctors were quick to assure me that with treatment, if we start on time, everything will be fine.”
Soon, the family hired a therapist, and the mother says his efforts are now paying off.
Before the diagnosis, Mrs Ibermir said her son was sometimes unresponsive when called, but excelled at every other developmental milestone, and she felt something was wrong.
At 18 months, her maternal instincts came into play. She could no longer discard the signs she saw in her child.
She told PUNCH HealthWise, “At 18 months, I noticed that sometimes you called him and he wouldn’t respond. I thought he was being naughty, which was kind of tricky because he hit all his developmental milestones on time.
“By then, he was already reciting his alphabet. He could recite ABC back and forth. He could recite up to 50, so I was a little confused.
“He can feed himself and climb the stairs but my problem is he doesn’t respond to his name. I find it weird, I thought he was being naughty.
“Occasionally, he’ll say ‘mom’. He’ll just say it once and move on, but it’s not a frequent occurrence for him, but he recognizes me as his mum, but he just doesn’t respond to him name.
“I thought it was because he was a boy and he was trying to be stubborn. Then I decided I was going to watch him until he was two. At least two years later, he should be able to talk,” she said.
When nothing changed at the age of two, Mrs Ibemere contacted a pediatrician friend who first told her her son might be autistic
“I said God bless! At that time, I knew what autism was, but I didn’t understand it.”
The friend then referred her to a specialist for observation.
That’s when she learned that her son had a mild form of autism.
Swift followed a pediatrician’s recommendation, and the Ibermels hired a therapist, and within three months, the mother said she could see changes in her son.
But before hiring a therapist, the mother admitted she worried about her son’s future. She was worried that he wouldn’t have a normal life like the other kids, but when the therapist was hired and she started to see good changes in the boy, she realized she had nothing to worry about and that her son was fine. clever.
She wants to know how he will be treated and how he will respond to it.
“I could see him doing things on his own, he’s even been accepted into a school and he’s doing really well.
“This autism is like a blessing in disguise. He’s reading and can add his numbers. He can write. Now, I don’t have any fear for the future. I know he can take care of himself. He’s normal. A man’s sense of life Just because he’s seen differently doesn’t mean he’s abnormal,” she said.
Worried about my one-year-old son not being able to speak
Another couple with a child with ASD that PUNCH HealthWise spoke to was Kehinde Asishana. They initially don’t notice the condition until the child is about a year old.
The Asishanas didn’t know there was a problem with their first child, Onovide, who was a year older than his sister but could not yet speak, when his seven-month-old sister started babbling “mama”.
Adding to the confusion for the mother, Mrs Asishana, is the fact that her son’s biological partner, who is the same age, speaks fluent Yoruba and English. She then went to a private hospital to find out what was wrong.
“We went to a private hospital where we were assigned a paediatrician who assigned us a therapist. He had a hearing assessment and it turned out to be perfect, then another assessment was required.
“During this particular assessment, he lost his temper and turned the lights off and on, which to me was unconscious and I didn’t know these were signs of illness.
“When they finished the assessment, the therapist told me my son had autism, which affected his speech, albeit slightly. He said my son had ASD level 2.”
The Ogun native said she was shocked. During that time, she recalled, her son was always hyperactive, climbing windows in addition to throwing tantrums, but noted that she never read anything meaningful from it.
“The therapist said that if I didn’t deal with it on time, he might not talk. He needed a therapist by his side to interact with him all the time,” Mrs. Asishana said.
However, she noted that prior to the diagnosis, people had told her and her husband that something was different about their son, and revealed that she ignored those concerns because he didn’t have any other obvious markers or delays until two years later when he couldn’t Talk, without even trying to talk.
The school thinks my son is stupid
Adding to the sadness, Mrs Asishana said, even the school where she enrolled the boys knew things were different, but never bothered to share their observations with the family.
“Even at his school they thought he was stupid. It was funny that we went to the school for open houses and no one wanted to tell us what they observed in the kids.
“When the teacher asks questions in class, they never ask him or interact with him. They just let him write and that’s it.
“We went to open days, conferences, but no one at his school said anything. He was pretty segregated, it was a private school and it was considered very expensive in the neighborhood we lived in.
“Assuming we hadn’t hired a therapist who observed him at school, we wouldn’t know how he was treated at school.
“In fact, the school administration said he thought he was stupid until we started therapy and the therapist was with him 24/7 in class.
“It was the therapist we hired who was trying to integrate him into school activities before he noticed he could talk. The problem wasn’t that he couldn’t hear, he could hear, but he had problems expressing himself,” the mother said.
Speaking to our reporter, Mr Asishana also stressed that it was disappointing that the school had not been in touch with the family regarding their observations of their son.
“I found out that they don’t understand the disease. I don’t blame them entirely because they don’t know,” said Mr Asishana, a software engineer.
But even after the condition was detected, getting a therapist into the school was another hurdle for the family to jump.
The mother of two recounted how difficult it was to even get a therapist into the class because they didn’t understand their son’s uniqueness. The school didn’t want to hear it, and the head teacher also objected.
After going back and forth with the school, he was eventually cut out, and finding a school that was right for him was not as easy as enrolling and paying for a new school, he said.
Three schools rejected our son because of confusion
He was rejected by three different schools due to his idiosyncrasies and the fact that he needed a therapist nearby.
“I feel so sad to have to ask them, ‘What happens to other kids who are worse off than this but don’t know?
“How do you let their parents know how their parents will feel?” asked Mrs. Ashana.